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San Diego Real Estate ✦ Conflict Resolution Specialist

Dr. Deena Stacer
Real Estate Relief Doctor

A Smart, Safe, Simple, and Caring Approach
to Buying and Selling Your Home

San Diego's only real estate agent combining 35+ years of market expertise with 1,000+ mediations — guiding you through every transaction with clarity, compassion, and confidence.

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"Deena stands in a league of her own. Her commitment to helping people resolve conflict is transformative."

— Joe Stumpf, Founder By Referral Only

Her Story

From Personal Challenges
to Professional Mastery

Dr. Deena Stacer's approach to real estate was shaped long before she became an agent. Growing up watching her grandfather guide clients from his home office, she inherited a deep-rooted desire to help people find not just a property, but a home — a sanctuary for their next chapter.

Her journey through personal challenges — including a high-conflict divorce — gave her an intimate understanding of the emotional weight that significant life transitions carry. Working with mentor Fred Steman for 21 years, she developed the rare ability to know what clients truly need, even before they can articulate it themselves.

Today, Dr. Deena brings over a thousand mediations, decades in the San Diego market, and a uniquely compassionate methodology to every transaction she guides. She serves buyers and sellers throughout San Diego County — from La Jolla and Del Mar to Chula Vista and El Cajon.

35+
Years in San Diego Real Estate
1,000+
Mediations Conducted
21
Years with Mentor Fred Steman
100%
Committed to Your Relief
"My mentor often said: 'Deena, you know more about people than they know about themselves.' This insight is at the heart of everything I do — it allows me to gently guide you toward your truest desires."

Inside the Book

Seven Chapters,
One Transformative Journey

Click any chapter to read it in full. Written by Dr. Deena Stacer, San Diego real estate agent and conflict resolution specialist.

01

The Emotional Cycle of Real Estate

Understand the four distinct stages every buyer and seller moves through — from the first decision to the final transition — so you can navigate with grace rather than anxiety.

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02

Building Trust and Rapport

Discover the FORM method — Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Message — the blueprint Dr. Deena uses to understand you as a whole person.

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03

Navigating Financial Concerns

Transform money worries into a clear roadmap. Learn the Real Estate Prosperity Ladder and the Financial Freedom Forecast.

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04

The Art of Negotiation and Mediation

Benefit from over a thousand mediations worth of insight. Dr. Deena's win-win philosophy ensures outcomes that satisfy both head and heart.

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05

Expectations vs. Reality

Bridge the gap between your vision and the market with tools like the Market Reality Mirror and the Expectation Adjustment technique.

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06

The Power of Networking and Referrals

Step into a curated ecosystem of trusted professionals. Dr. Deena's Three-Way Gift Referral philosophy means every connection works for you.

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07

Your Path to Real Estate Success

The Compass of Clarity. The Synergy of Strategy and Intuition. The Resilience Roadmap. The Harmony of Home and Life. Dr. Deena brings it all together into your personalized path.

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Dr. Deena's Signature Methods

The Frameworks That
Change Everything

Developed over decades of practice in San Diego real estate and conflict resolution, these methodologies are the engine behind every successful transaction.

FORM
The Blueprint for Deep Understanding
FFamily — Your dynamics, relationships, and who this home is truly for
OOccupation — Your career, schedule, and how real estate fits your life
RRecreation — How you live and what a home must enable for you
MMessage — The deeper why behind your move — security, fresh start, legacy
WIN-WIN
The Mediator's Philosophy

With over a thousand mediations behind her, Dr. Deena doesn't approach negotiation as combat. She seeks the outcome where every party feels genuinely satisfied.

The Patience Paradox: Sometimes the most powerful move is being willing to walk away — and knowing exactly when to do it.

Perspective-Shifting: Understanding the other party's true motivations unlocks creative solutions that pure negotiation never finds.

3-GIFT
The Three-Way Referral Approach
①The Giver's Joy — Dr. Deena provides value beyond the transaction
②The Receiver's Relief — You gain pre-vetted, trusted professionals
③The Provider's Gratitude — Specialists who go above and beyond for referrals
CLARITY
The Compass of Real Estate Success

The Compass of Clarity aligns your deepest desires with the realities of the San Diego market — so every step moves you toward a future that excites and fulfills you.

Combined with the Financial Freedom Forecast and the Real Estate Prosperity Ladder, you gain a complete roadmap.

Chapter One

The Four Stages of Your
Real Estate Journey

Every buyer and seller in San Diego moves through these four stages. Understanding them transforms uncertainty into a roadmap.

Stage 1

The Decision
Embracing Possibilities

You've made the choice to buy or sell. Excitement and uncertainty arrive together. Dr. Deena becomes your sounding board — clarifying goals and setting realistic expectations.

Stage 2

The Preparation
Laying the Groundwork

Pre-approvals, property prep, house hunting strategy — the action begins. Dr. Deena's trusted network of San Diego lenders, inspectors, and specialists means you're never navigating alone.

Stage 3

The Waiting Game
Patience & Perseverance

The most emotionally charged stage. Dr. Deena's background in counseling and conflict resolution helps you manage the uncertainty with regular communication and steadying support.

Stage 4

The Transition
Embracing New Beginnings

Closing day and beyond. Dr. Deena's support doesn't end when the papers are signed — she ensures your transition is smooth, honoring what you're leaving while celebrating what's ahead.

Common Questions

Questions About
Working with Dr. Deena

Dr. Deena Stacer answers the most common questions about San Diego real estate, divorce property sales, and conflict resolution.

Who is Dr. Deena Stacer and what does she specialize in? +
Dr. Deena Stacer is a licensed real estate agent (DRE #00703471) and conflict resolution specialist based in San Diego, California, with over 35 years of experience and more than 1,000 mediations conducted. She specializes in divorce real estate, high-conflict property sales, buyer representation, seller representation, and real estate mediation throughout San Diego County. She is also the author of The Real Estate Relief Doctor (2024).
How do I sell a house during a divorce in San Diego? +
In California, both spouses must agree to sell marital property unless a court orders the sale. Dr. Deena Stacer specializes in this exact situation — she acts as a neutral party guiding both spouses through the process without taking sides, reducing conflict and keeping the transaction on track. Call 858-229-8072 for a confidential consultation.
What is the FORM method in real estate? +
FORM stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Message. It is Dr. Deena Stacer's proprietary client assessment framework. Family reveals household dynamics. Occupation clarifies financial context. Recreation identifies lifestyle features. Message uncovers the deeper motivation — security, fresh start, legacy, status — driving the decision.
What areas does Dr. Deena Stacer serve in San Diego? +
Dr. Deena Stacer serves all of San Diego County, including La Jolla, Del Mar, Encinitas, Chula Vista, El Cajon, Coronado, Santee, Pacific Beach, Mission Hills, Point Loma, Hillcrest, and North County San Diego. She has been practicing in the San Diego real estate market since 1990.
What makes Dr. Deena different from other San Diego real estate agents? +
Dr. Deena Stacer is the only San Diego real estate agent combining 35+ years of licensed practice (DRE #00703471) with over 1,000 mediations conducted. This dual expertise allows her to serve clients in emotionally complex transactions — divorces, inherited properties, high-conflict co-ownership — that most agents are not equipped to handle.
How do I contact Dr. Deena Stacer? +
Call Dr. Deena Stacer at 858-229-8072 or click the email icon to copy her address to clipboard. She offers confidential consultations for buyers, sellers, and individuals navigating divorce or high-conflict property situations in San Diego, California.

Foreword

Joe Stumpf
Business Coach & Founder,
By Referral Only

With decades of coaching tens of thousands of real estate agents, Joe Stumpf is one of the most respected voices in the industry. He chose to write the foreword for Dr. Deena's book — a rare endorsement of her remarkable approach.

"In my decades of coaching, I've encountered many exceptional professionals. But Dr. Deena Stacer stands in a league of her own. Her commitment to helping people resolve conflict isn't just impressive — it's transformative."

What sets Deena apart is her seamless integration of cutting-edge technology with her wealth of experience and innate understanding of human nature. She doesn't just keep up with the times — she stays ahead of the curve, leveraging the latest tools to provide clients with a real estate experience that's both efficient and deeply personalized.

Her ability to mediate, communicate, and clarify complex situations is nothing short of extraordinary. She has a unique talent for simplifying the most intricate real estate scenarios and asking the kind of thought-provoking questions that cut to the heart of her clients' needs and desires.

"What you hold in your hands is more than just a guide to real estate — it's a blueprint for transformation, both in your property endeavors and in your approach to life's challenges."
Dr. Deena Stacer — San Diego Real Estate Agent

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