A Neutral Agent Who Guides Both Spouses Through the Sale — With Clarity, Compassion, and 1,000+ Mediations Behind Her
Selling a home during a divorce is one of the most emotionally and financially complex real estate situations a person can face. You and your spouse may be in conflict. Your attorneys are involved. The clock is ticking. And the home — often your largest shared asset — is caught in the middle.
Dr. Deena Stacer has been helping divorcing couples in San Diego sell the marital home since 1990. With over 35 years of real estate experience and more than 1,000 mediations conducted, she is uniquely qualified to serve as the neutral agent both spouses can trust.
Serving all of San Diego County. Confidential consultations available by phone, video, or in person.
A standard real estate transaction has one client — or two clients who agree. A divorce real estate transaction has two clients who may deeply disagree. Standard agents are not trained for this. Their job is to sell a house. Dr. Deena's job is to help two people who are in conflict reach agreement on the most financially significant decision of their divorce.
Dr. Deena does not take sides. She presents market data objectively, communicates with both parties and their attorneys, and keeps the focus on the shared goal: completing the sale at the best possible price with the least possible conflict.
When spouses disagree on listing price, timing, repairs, or offers — Dr. Deena's mediation background gives her tools no ordinary real estate agent has. She can facilitate conversations that would otherwise derail negotiations, helping both parties reach decisions they can live with.
Dr. Deena works alongside your family law attorneys and any court-appointed mediators to ensure the real estate timeline aligns with your divorce proceedings. She has the experience to communicate clearly in both real estate and legal contexts.
Using her Financial Freedom Forecast methodology, Dr. Deena helps both spouses understand how this sale affects their individual financial futures — so both feel confident the decision serves their long-term interests, not just the immediate transaction.
"My own experience navigating a high-conflict divorce taught me what clients in this situation truly need — not just a transaction manager, but someone who understands the emotional weight of every decision. That's what I bring to every divorce real estate engagement."
— Dr. Deena Stacer
Both spouses must agree to the sale unless a court orders it. The process involves selecting a neutral agent, pricing the home at fair market value, executing a marketing and showing strategy both parties approve, reviewing and accepting an offer, and dividing proceeds per your divorce settlement. Dr. Deena manages every step with both spouses — and their attorneys — involved. Call 858-229-8072 to start the conversation.
If one spouse refuses to cooperate, the other can petition the court to appoint a referee or order a partition sale. Dr. Deena can sometimes break the impasse before legal action is necessary by facilitating conversation between parties and their attorneys. If a court order is already in place, she can work within that framework.
Dr. Deena works with both parties' attorneys to keep everyone aligned. Her role is the real estate transaction, not the divorce. She communicates openly with all counsel involved and focuses the conversation on market facts and transaction logistics — not the personal conflict between spouses.
No. Showings are managed professionally regardless of which spouse is present. Dr. Deena coordinates with both parties to ensure the home is accessible and properly prepared for the market without requiring both spouses to be in the same place at the same time.
Fees are discussed transparently at the outset with both spouses and their attorneys so there are no surprises. The commission structure in a divorce sale follows standard real estate practice and is typically addressed in the divorce settlement. Contact Dr. Deena at 858-229-8072 for a specific conversation.
Dr. Deena Stacer offers confidential consultations for individuals navigating divorce real estate in San Diego. Call, email, or request a video consultation.
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